We Work So Hard to Become… That We Forget We’ve Already Become.

By Sandra D. Harrison, CEO

DVA Leadership & Development Training Consultants

In our constant pursuit of growth, success, and transformation, many of us live in a state of becoming. We chase the next contract, the next big client, the next milestone — believing that once we reach it, we will finally “arrive.” But sometimes, in all that striving, we forget to pause and recognize that we may have already become the very thing we were working toward.

The Pressure to Keep Becoming

From the moment we step into leadership AND entrepreneurship, we’re told that the key to success is continual development. And while that’s true, growth never stops. The danger is that we can become so fixated on the next level that we forget to acknowledge the current level.

We measure ourselves against evolving goals rather than honoring our journey. The degree we earned, the lives we’ve impacted, the barriers we’ve broken, they fade into the background as we chase the next “becoming.”

The Power of the Pause

There’s wisdom in stillness.

Psalms 48:10

Take a breath. Reflect on how far you’ve come. The late nights, the setbacks, the quiet moments of crying to courage, they all built the leader, the visionary, the healer, the mentor that you are right now.

Becoming isn’t always about doing more; sometimes it’s about being more present with what already is.

When we pause long enough to recognize our evolution, we make space for gratitude and gratitude amplifies our growth.

Recognizing That You Have Become

Becoming isn’t a destination. It’s a series of transformations that eventually merge into your identity.

The confidence that once took effort now feels natural.

The compassion you show others isn’t forced, it’s who you are.

The leadership presence you once studied now flows from within.

That’s not the process of becoming anymore. That’s being.

A Call to Leaders and Learners

As leaders, mentors, and community builders, let’s remind one another to celebrate our becoming moments. Let’s take inventory not of what’s next, but of what is.

You may not see it right away, but someone is already looking at you and thinking, “That’s who I aspire to become.”

The truth is, you already are.

xoxo